Offers a meditation on what we hold onto, what we let go of, how we remember others and ultimately how we're remembered. Deborah Cohan shares her story of caring for her father, a man who was simultaneously loud, gentle, loving and cruel.

In this extraordinary memoir, Deborah Cohan shares her story of caring for her elderly father, a man who was often generous and loving, but who also subjected her to a lifetime of cruelty, rage, and controlling behavior. Trained as a sociologist and family violence counselor, Cohan reflects on how she healed from decades of emotional abuse.